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Get Out of That Pit- Chapter 3

We took this week as a fall break from Homeschool. It’s been nice, but I’m having a hard time being motivated to do anything. While we were staying with family over the weekend, however, I did find time to snuggle up with my favorite four year old and read… she read Berenstain Bears and I read some more of Get Out of That Pit by Beth Moore.

Chapter 3 is called “When You Slip Into A Pit.” It’s all about how you make choices that seem harmless at first, but eventually land you in a pit. We put ourselves in a pit without even meaning to. Most people don’t “mean” to have an eating disorder, an extra-marital affair, a pain-killer addiction, a massive debt… these things all start with good, maybe even pure intentions, but somewhere along the way take a wrong turn- which heads straight into a pit.

Beth Moore points out a strategy, a three step progressive plan that Satan has to slip us up and land us in the pit, in the muck, in the mire. It is this:

1. Distraction– a small distraction that becomes a big one is called a stronghold. 2 Corinthians 10:5 basically says a stronghold is anything that sets itself up against the knowledge of God. So.. anything that pulls our attention away from the Lord.

2. Addiction– a couple of weeks ago, my husband preached at the church where we got married. He recently graduated from seminary with a degree in counseling. He talked about addiction and how not many people would be comfortable calling themselves an addict, but the truth is we all struggle with addiction- in the Christian world, we call it idol worship- giving our affection, time and efforts to anything other than the Lord is idol worship.

3. Destruction– this is Satan’s end goal. He doesn’t just want to hurt us or trip us up… he wants to DESTROY us!

If you’re a Christian, you have a built in alarm system. The Holy Spirit is in us, and if we don’t quench Him He’ll tell us early on when we’re headed for trouble. He’ll also tell us whether to be careful right where we are or bail out all together.

Read that last sentence again… to stay put and be careful or to bail out all together..some situations need to be abandoned. Don’t fool yourself or justify your actions in the name of ministry… abort the plan. Let’s say you’re volunteering for something at church and getting chummy with one of the men who is helping who is NOT your husband. All of the sudden you find yourself spending more time with him, enjoying his company, “harmlessly flirting,”.. abort! Run away! It is not worth ruining your marriage and breaking your vows!

Or.. an example a little closer to home for me… we had a neighbor who would frequently… like multiple times a day come to our door asking for money, pain medicine, food, my phone… at first I didn’t mind. I wanted to help the family. I wanted to share Jesus with them. I thought if I turned them away or said no, they would have a bad view of Christianity. After a few months of this daily routine, I found myself hating her. I hated every time I would hear a knock at the door. I wouldn’t let the kids play outside. I closed the shades and turned off the lights and hid. I would blame the neighbors if something was missing from our house or something was wrong with our car. I found myself in a pit of bitterness. We sought wisdom and were told over and over again to set boundaries… to say no.It became clear they were only interested in what they could get from us… when we started saying no, they soon moved on.

Another way you can sometimes recognize Satan at work is that you begin to feel backed into a corner… It’s ironic Satan tries to sell us the philosophy that God wants to squelch us and confine us and that, like Him, we should be able to do whatever we want… Satan promises wide- open spaces, but then he backs us into a pit.

I feel like that sums up a lot of how I saw God in the last couple of years. I was so mad about having to leave my comforts and follow my husband to seminary. I saw it as God trying to squelch me. Even a couple of months ago, I asked my husband how much more God was going to do to squash us in the area of money (we had just lost our second car and were going to have to be a one car family for a while). My husband told me not to ask that question because he doubted I really wanted to know the answer.

Instead of having a pity party when things don’t go my way, I really should be saying:

If I should say, “my foot has slipped, ”

Your lovingkindness, O Lord, will hold me up.

When my anxious thoughts multiply within me,

Your consolations delight my soul.

Psalm 94: 18- 19

Contrary to what Satan would have you believe, God doesn’t want to squelch or squash you. He wants to console, love and build you up. His ways are not our ways and don’t make sense all the time… but really… the Lord is the only one who can be trusted 100% of the time.

I highly recommend that you read this book and not just go on my thoughts.. what stands out as important to me may not be what stands out to you.

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Get Out of That Pit- Chapter 2

Last week, I mentioned that I am reading Get Out of That Pit by Beth Moore.

Amazingly enough, I’ve actually been able to get another chapter read.. woo hoo!

Chapter 2- When You’re Thrown Into A Pit

I’m looking at the reflection questions in the back of the book. The book began talking about when we are in pits… basically because we got ourselves there one way or another. This chapter is about being thrown into a “pit of innocence.”

This is a tough subject to me because I have heard it asked and wondered myself “where was Jesus when this was happening?” I have heard that asked by the victim of child abuse… by the mother who lost her child… by the children whose parents are fighting and threatening or carrying through with divorce… by the friend on the mission field facing suffering head on.. and so many others. Where is Jesus now?

There’s a quotation at the end of the chapter:

Beloved, let this one sink in deeply: if God allowed you to be thrown into a pit, you weren’t pick on; you were picked out. God entrusted that suffering to you because He has faith in you. Live up to it. All the way up.

At first I read this and think… seriously… God entrusted me with suffering… that’s just sick… but the reality is.. we live in a fallen world and suffering is inevitable. The effects of sin are all around us. We cannot escape it. We could live under a rock and never venture out. We could try to do everything right… but sin will not be escaped. My uncle never smoked. He has taken great care of himself his whole life.. and now… he has lung cancer… what? Sin has effected everything.

Also a point addressed in this chapter is basically the idea that God doesn’t waste experiences. He uses our experiences to shape and mold us… hopefully for the good. My husband grew up in a children’s home. His family was not necessarily what one dreams for… he could be bitter… he could be mad… but he has chosen to see where God’s hand was at work even in his early childhood to make him the man he is today. Now.. he works with families and does in home counseling. He is able to relate to these families in a way that others can’t. He has been there.

Beth Moore talks about how her husband’s early experience of losing a sibling has shaped him into the man he is today. She says to him, “you’re a much neater person healed than you would have been well.”

Well put… we would be different people without the bumps and bruises. We would, in my opinion, most likely be less effective people.

Before I started going to Haiti on mission trips, I could tell you why I thought missions was important. I could tell you why I thought it was a Biblical mandate. But.. . it wasn’t until I had my heart broken by the poverty, suffering and spiritual darkness first hand that I could really express myself. I had the bumps and bruises of the trips I went on. I held the hand of the sick. I rejoiced and laughed alongside teachers who had nothing in their classrooms. I prayed for children on their deathbeds. I saw those who were thrown into pits first hand and I realized that yes it sucks… but Jesus had not abandoned them… there was still hope.

One of the questions in the book:

Sometimes we start out in a pit of innocence, but later find ourselves in a pit of sin. What is the potential sin of a person who has been thrown into a pit?

Unforgiveness. Funny thing… spell check isn’t recognizing unforgiveness as a word. It’s recognizes forgiveness. Unforgiveness can give way to bitterness and resentment. Rather than hurting the one who caused the sin in the first place… it can end up destroying the one who was sinned against to begin with.

Forgiveness is a tool given to us by the Lord to bring about healing. It is a powerful thing. I have a friend whose brother was killed by a drunk driver. His mother was a wreck. She held to that bitterness and anger for so long. But she finally made the decision to forgive. When the day of the trial came for the driver.. she said she wanted nothing more than to hug and hold the man responsible for her son’s death and let him know that he was loved and forgiven.

Final thought.

Knowing God is sovereign is a powerful tool. Knowing that God is just and more broken hearted over sin and suffering than we are is amazing. Knowing that he actually has the power to make it right is unbelievable!

Holding God ultimately responsible in the healthy way His word suggests will be our ticket out of a pit.

Take an example from Joseph in the Bible:

You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives.- Genesis 50:20

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